Thursday, April 07, 2005

I don't know if YOU will ever read this, but this is what I want to tell YOU

Just random surfing, and I came across one of the blogs I've totally not visited for close to a year now. Best buried in the past, best left behind.

He was writing about losing that very person he left behind, and talking about not being able to put it down even after so long. And about where all the blame is to be placed. Alright, fair enough. I might not understand why you're still unable to put the past behind, because well, we all have our own ways and time of dealing with things. That's fine, honestly.

But what is NOT fine is the judging you can do about another person and the special someone else she has in her life at present. Ask yourself before you hastily label another person "just another average joe"-- do you even know this person? Point is, you know nothing. Nothing beyond the initial face value subjectivity you've applied in your judgment of him.

And what makes you so sure that it's because of the experience of "one bad boyfriend" that makes the next one seem like the most caring and thoughtful person in the world? What's up with the finger-pointing now? It's not an issue with you, neither is it an issue with him. It's ridiculous how you can label someone you don't even know "an opportunistic bastard". Save the labels for someone you really know. You don't even know how he and I came into being, so what gives you the right to throw labels around like you possess some superior knowledge about us that even I am not aware of? I fumed when I read that bit, and it is both repulsive and irresponsible for you to say something like that, about someone you don't even know.

I am not being defensive of him, neither am I explaining anything to you. I just feel that your judgment and assumptions that you know the process of how he and I got together are totally skewered. I understand that you might not get over things the way I do, and there are things you hold onto, which I don't. Fair enough, there's nothing wrong with that.

But please, before you hurl judgment on 'the other guy', think twice. You don't know anything about this other person, you don't know anything about the both of us. In this case, opportunity had nothing to do with it, because if it did, theoretically I should have been with 2 other people and not the current him. Because that's what happened after you. The fact remains that I was never with these 2 individuals. Neither did you and I break up because of the current him. Once again, something you know nothing about. So if he will always remain 'the other guy' to you, doesn't it show that he is someone you never knew, don't know, and will never know about?

So keep your judgment, theories and labels to yourself, and quit assuming that he came into my life because there was a void opening after you, and he seized the chance to enter. Nothing happens so smoothly, and I have not seen opportunistic bastards (quoting YOU) enter my life ever before. Not you in the past, and most certainly, not him now. Thankyouverymuch


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